E- Ecstasy or Escapism ?

Bangalore- the one place known as one of the most happening places thanks to IT , call center and bars. In a district that has 48 bars in one stretch of a mile length road and for a district that comes on the 1st position for having the most number of millionaire households in India , definitely Bangalore is a happening place.

Recently we and a friend of ours happened to be in Purple Haze which is one of the hmm.. ok ok happening page 3 type pubs in the city , sipping on our regular fruit punch and then she spots him . Walks in with a typical delhi melbourne swagger and they talk , have sex and they are all going great with each other.And the moment she wanted to move from the here and now to the long and forever and then realisation strikes him of wedding-parenthood-children-schools-office-curry-tiffen box- golf- home-old age-death and then he walks out on her.

Later she walks in one fine day at my place with the delhi swagger and i am like "Everything good between you folks ?" and she is like "We are yet to talk about it tonight " , and the evening ends up with a pleasant dinner to a very beautiful morning when the uproar breaks out...

She walks in the next day to his place the next day morning to discuss "US" and he tells her that men have walls and he has Great Wall of China and he walks out on her, recently she called me up and said " Rahul stood me up again last night , we were supposed to go out for Ocean's 13.. when i woke up in the morning he left a note "Happy Birthday !!, Sorry can't make it tonight , busy at work " beside a gift , which when i opened was huge ugly candle "...

I at that moment started wondering why do we men take more refuge in " E "- escapism silly, not ecstasy , maybe its the facing of responsiblities , or its getting up to a differnt morning to the face of the same person...after all we do hate routine in all phases and walks of our life isnt ?...or maybe its because free ass is so easily available these days..

A post after a time i lost count off and in a time that i am finally happy of myself and the enviroment around me , Happy Friendship Day folks and everyone mast maja maadi ( Bangalore style , oh man i love this place , ha ha )

Denial..It works for everyone...

We only see what we want to see...and beleive what we want to believe..and it works...We lie to oursevelvs so much that after a while ,the lies start to seem like the truth...We deny so much that we cant recognise the truth right in front of our faces...Most of the time, we know what the reality is..we just coose to ignore it....denials works for us most of the time....

Sometimes reality has a way of sneaking up and biting us in the ass, and when the dam bursts, all you can do is swim..The world of pretend is a cage , we can only pretend to lie to ourselves for so long ..we are tired, we are scared, denying it doesnt change the truth...Sooner or later, we have to put aside our denial and face the world, head on, guns blazing...
so how do u keep from drowning when the dam breaks ?

My point is whoever said"what you dont know cant hurt you was a complete and total moron" cause for most people i know ; not knowing is the worst feeling in the world..As grown ups we have to know..we have to know what it takes ...to take care of the people dependent on us ..to take care of each other..

Eventually we have to even figure out how to take care of ourselves..But...As human beings ; sometimes its better to stay in the dark ...because in the dark there may be fear ; but there is also hope......

P.S. Instead of the song of the day, i choose today to tell everyone somethhing i took a long time to learn " Never, i mean never ; cheat on the peson whom you love ...believe me you dont know what you are missing ". If this does not make sense to you right now...then u are doing ok....